The Inner Ally Program — Cultivating a Love You Can Depend On
If there’s one thing I know, it is that each of us needs to befriend ourselves. Physical life will undoubtably be laden with both the “good” and the “bad,” the ups and the downs, the coming together and the falling apart of things. You may think that through studying spiritualism that you’ve got one up on life, but in actuality, none of us knows what tomorrow will bring and it has the potential to bring us to our knees. So what can we do? How do we learn to live with this uncertainty?
Well, we can accept it, and best to, because it’s going to come down anyway, however, how we greet it, and especially how we treat ourselves as we are going through it, is of optimal importance. When the shit hits the fan, are you your own best friend or your own worst enemy? For example, when you stub your toe, how do you react?
I believe that it is important to become introspective in order to explore the inner voice that is most prevalent in you. In most cases, this voice was trained when you were very young and responds out of life long habits, many of which are more critical in nature than supportive.
Meditation is probably the best way to glimpse your thoughts because you can step back from being right in the middle of inside them, and view them from the witness perspective. However, if you are not inclined to meditate, just pay attention to how you react internally to events throughout your day. We are constantly writing scrips, approving or disapproving of ourselves or others, comparing, planning, criticizing, and downright dissecting everything mentally through own own specialized lenses….and then we wonder why we have a headache!
The first step in The Inner Ally Program is to start observing the internal dialogue that you keep running inside yourself. Pay attention to your reactions to the little things that come up throughout any given day with this question in mind: In this moment am I being my own best friend or foe? Is my voice loving and supportive or critical and destructive in nature?
What I have learned is that although we cannot control all the events that take place around us, we can, by observing ourselves, learn to recognize and challenge habits of a lifetime. that are not in our best interests. Habitual ways of thinking that are not in our best interest, can be disrupted and overthrown.